So one of the key strategies that Sanlyn Wellness has used to create the art of letting go has been to find these little individuals, create a dialogue of communication and begin to create a level of trust using Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy and Chakra Therapy. Often times these energies have been scared, angry, lost, bratty and even invisible. These children may resist the attempts to connect because they has been disconnected for so long and are in a place of being survivalist and alone in this world. The key word to emphasize here is an unconscious pattern of DOUBT that had been created by these little selves to survive the turmoil of emotions they experienced in the early development of their existence. RESISTANCE and overwhelming feeling of DOUBT have become entwined in the protective layering of these children to the detriment of progression in the bigger adult part of the individuals.

"It has been this method of little by little that has seemed to be the most effective manner of allowing these children to come out of hiding and grab the adult hands as they break the defensive barrier down."

Sanlyn Wellness has focused on the one step at a time approach to breaking down these defences. From clients experiences and the feelings of being stuck in the mud syndrome that has been observed over the years, little pieces of the wall are tackled one at a time and various different tools are experimented with to see how much of these fears can be broken down. It has been this method of little by little that has seemed to be the most effective manner of allowing these children to come out of hiding and grab the adult hands as they break the defensive barrier down. When the connection of the little hands and the big hands are made, there is a fusion of the conscious and unconscious hurts. This creates a domino effect of trust and feeling safe enough to take risks knowing that the big part is guiding the way.  More and more pieces of the walls fall away and these doubts become weaker and weaker, much like a villain losing his powers when he is defeated by the superhero in a movie or a novel.

Once this has been achieved the letting go has begun. From this energetic release of hurt and toxic feelings, comes a space of being able to open up ones awareness to new possibilities and a higher potential for self-actualization. The universe and its language then begins to work with the bigger and little parts to guide you to a place of peace, happiness, joy and fulfillment.

If this article speaks to you, call or email to book an appointment and the techniques will be explored in a much more in-depth manner.

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"With any type of Hypnotherapy process, the quieting of the mind chatter is a strong barometer for the success of the program. Every client that comes to Sanlyn Wellness has a differing degree of how strong their conscious mind is and how receptive their subconscious mind can be to suggestions for habit change. Without giving away specific details, examples are provided in this context that are generic as to protect the confidentiality of the clients."

Sanlyn Wellness has had clients eliminate smoking 25 cigarettes a day in as little as 1 session by closely listening to their reasons for wanting to end their smoking habit.  Some of the reasons were health related, while others were new relationships or the birth of a child etc.  Compassion and listening by Lynton were instrumental in allowing clients to feel safe and secure.  This made it easier for specific suggestions to be implemented, which had been discussed during the initial inquiry phase of the session.  There were however times where the conscious mind had deep and intense defenses in place that made it more difficult to stop smoking after 1 session.  There were some clients that had taken up to 4 sessions to quit smoking only 7-8 cigarettes a day because as mentioned above the defenses were stronger and the need to control situations were more focused in the forefront.  This is where Psychotherapy is used to figure out why the defenses are being resistant to change.  Lynton Friedman is well trained in both modalities and the combination of the techniques usually leads to a good result for the clients.  Reinforcement is also key to success of the suggestions sinking into the core subconscious part of the brain.

Lynton Friedman looks at the ROI, this is the rate of return on the investment.  With a high success rate at Sanlyn Wellness and not a huge amount being spent through the program, you are going to be saving a lot of money and improving your health over the long run.  To provide an example of this, let us use a client who smokes 25 cigarettes a day at $10.00/pack.  Take 7 days of the week and you are looking at $70.00 per week.  Take the $70.00 and times it by 4 and you are spending $280.00 a month.  Take $280.00 and times it by 12 and you have $3360.00 a year.  Take $3360.00 and times it by 12 years and you have $40,320.00 to spend on vacations, renovations for the house or to put into a retirement plan to name a few things.

Call us to find out more about the smoking cessation program and we would be glad to answer your questions.

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The final two written black and white cards of a fifteen year old British Columbia teenager shortly before she took her own life. , Sanlyn Wellness wishes to express condolences to her family and pray that her soul transitions peacefully. This young lady brought to the forefront through her ten minute YouTube video a chilling reminder that bullying is not an isolated incident and more prevalent than we as society ever imagined it to be.

As the author of this article, the owner and counselor/therapist of Sanlyn Wellness Centre in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, it has been my job over a number of years to help many different individuals from all walks of life to learn and cope with traumatic experiences and relationship issues. One such area that has been quite a focal point with clients is bullying at one time or another in their lives. The effects of watching an adult reliving this verbal, emotional or online abuse in my office is heart wrenching.

I have also been the victim of torment and being bullied when I was the same age as Amanda. My experience was nowhere close to what this young female endured, however one episode I remember was painful and definitely left a scar in my psyche. I had just moved to Canada from South Africa and I was dealing with the stress of immigration and wanting to somehow fit into a society and culture that was foreign to me. I was placed into high school almost two months into the semester. Most of my peers had integrated and formed cliques of friends. To compound this I was teased for my accent which I believe to this day is wonderful. I was made fun of because I wore South African clothing that was a different style. My story that I am going to share happened in an English class.

"I remember crying and just feeling like I hated Canada, felt low and wondered why people could be so cruel."

The teacher was writing on the blackboard and had her back to the classroom. I remember some popular cool kids in the class turning to me and in a very quiet voice saying stand up and go to the clock on the wall and move it forward fifteen minutes so we can get out of class early. Having very few solid good friends at this time, I just wanted to fit in, so I got up and began to change the clock. As I was in the process of doing that the very same kids started yelling out to the teacher to look. I froze in my footsteps, embarrassment, fear, anger, sadness and isolation ran through my mind. I was made to explain myself after the class and did not get into trouble because of my situation of being new to the school. I remember crying and just feeling like I hated Canada, felt low and wondered why people could be so cruel.

Bullying causes a number of reactions as you can see from mine and Amanda’s story. Wanting to be alone, low self esteem, addictions, panic attacks, headaches, stomach pains, depression, insomnia and anger are some of the more common effects of continuous or isolated bullying, whether it is verbal, physical, social or online. I too, like Amanda experienced a slew of feelings both physical and emotional. What helped guide me through the stress and incidents at that time was a constant reminder to myself that I was not going to allow the power to be given over to teenagers that were just as insecure as me at the time. I worked really hard at finding people that honoured me for who I was and that had similar interests and made some very close friends that I still to this day have.

Unfortunately Amanda’s pain was too much, her anguish to hard to swallow. This article is written in her memory to a teenage girl I never met, yet shared a common bond. Each and every time I work with bullying in my practice going forward, Amanda your story is going to be told. If you have been bullied, call or email Sanlyn Wellness and we can help.

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