So one of the key strategies that Sanlyn Wellness has used to create the art of letting go has been to find these little individuals, create a dialogue of communication and begin to create a level of trust using Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy and Chakra Therapy. Often times these energies have been scared, angry, lost, bratty and even invisible. These children may resist the attempts to connect because they has been disconnected for so long and are in a place of being survivalist and alone in this world. The key word to emphasize here is an unconscious pattern of DOUBT that had been created by these little selves to survive the turmoil of emotions they experienced in the early development of their existence. RESISTANCE and overwhelming feeling of DOUBT have become entwined in the protective layering of these children to the detriment of progression in the bigger adult part of the individuals.

"It has been this method of little by little that has seemed to be the most effective manner of allowing these children to come out of hiding and grab the adult hands as they break the defensive barrier down."

Sanlyn Wellness has focused on the one step at a time approach to breaking down these defences. From clients experiences and the feelings of being stuck in the mud syndrome that has been observed over the years, little pieces of the wall are tackled one at a time and various different tools are experimented with to see how much of these fears can be broken down. It has been this method of little by little that has seemed to be the most effective manner of allowing these children to come out of hiding and grab the adult hands as they break the defensive barrier down. When the connection of the little hands and the big hands are made, there is a fusion of the conscious and unconscious hurts. This creates a domino effect of trust and feeling safe enough to take risks knowing that the big part is guiding the way.  More and more pieces of the walls fall away and these doubts become weaker and weaker, much like a villain losing his powers when he is defeated by the superhero in a movie or a novel.

Once this has been achieved the letting go has begun. From this energetic release of hurt and toxic feelings, comes a space of being able to open up ones awareness to new possibilities and a higher potential for self-actualization. The universe and its language then begins to work with the bigger and little parts to guide you to a place of peace, happiness, joy and fulfillment.

If this article speaks to you, call or email to book an appointment and the techniques will be explored in a much more in-depth manner.

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"This Inner Critic came as a result of childhood wounds and generally resulted from some authority type figure, whether parents, teachers, religious authority or government institutions. The message that the child picked up was one of having done something wrong and as a result there was some sort of criticism placed on the child. The interesting thing about the dynamics is the authority figures were just as fallible (had authority who judged them too), yet the child is too young to rationalize this and look at the macro rather than the micro dynamics of the situation."

Since the rational side is not as strongly developed yet, the Critical Voice becomes a defense mechanism designed to protect the child from further wounds and in effect becomes like a military leader who creates a preemptive strike against an enemy in order to keep safe from further harm. The idea of the strike is to make sure that there is no fear of failure, abandonment issues or the sense of not being loved enough by those who were meant to keep us safe and secure.

The childlike wounded energy has no conceptualization of the adult world as we know it and the emotions become deeply entrenched in a web of defenses that can only be understood and broken down by a professional trained to deal with this rather large and judging voice.

This is where Lynton Friedman, the therapist at Sanlyn Wellness comes into play. There are a number of tools that can be administered to get the child to understand that there is an adult part and integrate them together. One such method is doing what we call Voice Dialoguing with the Inner Critic using a Felt Sense. This method entails creating a feeling of the body releasing the stored negative emotions by getting the client to focus on a series of directive questions while at the same time creating a visual or feeling of this Critic by imagining that there is a creative side to them and bringing this energy to life in order to let the child understand that the adult part of them is in charge in a positive manner as opposed to negative analyzing.

If this method interests you or you are looking to explore more ways to understanding why you are so critical of yourself, call or email Sanlyn Wellness to book a session and set yourself free of all the associated thoughts related to the criticism and perfectionism.

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When these above situations occur, the behavioural response is overridden by the longer term shame that is associated with these incidents. The key point to focus on is that anger by itself is not the issue, the dilemma is how to deal with it. This article is primarily going to focus on the negative connotations of anger and a couple of techniques to help deal with them. However we must remember that anger can sometimes push us forward in constructive ways. One such example could be a battered wife who uses the fuel of her emotional anger to finally leave the relationship and find what she deserves out of life. Anger is an emotion that is multi-layered with defence mechanisms that came in to protect us at an early age from hurt and other forms of emotional pain. Distortion of control is seen when someone is angry or in a rage. As much as we attempt to think or feel we are in control of the situation, an adult who is raging is merely a five year old having a temper tantrum because they could not get what they wanted.

"A well trained counselor, such as Lynton Friedman can help you unfold those layers of defences and identify with you the sadness that is creating so much pain in your life, which is adversely affecting your relationships and your overall sense of self esteem/worth."

Below are two techniques which can benefit you during anger periods:

1. Technique One

The first one is the Time Out Technique that professional sports teams use to strategize their next move in a game. It is excellent because it gives a breathing space from the engagement and allows for a cooler calmer mind to prevail. It also takes away the arena of the battle and if there is only one team that engages, they will ultimately be having an argument or playing a game with themselves.

2. Technique Two

The second technique is to keep a Journal of how you react to anger and notice the thoughts, feelings and emotions through the Symantec language that you use. An example of this would be someone who has a healthy sense of themselves would say; “I failed this time and from this mistake I will grow”. An unhealthy angry response would be; “I am useless and nobody will love me because I can never succeed”. The importance of recognizing how we respond to these situations is how we can effectively change the dynamics and decrease feelings of sadness and pain.

It is very important to understand that this process is most effective when there is a higher degree of willingness by the person to allow it to happen. Furthermore when someone is in Therapeutic Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy THEY ARE IN CONTROL. They are not in a state of unconsciousness and infact they may have more awareness of the sensory input around them during the scripting and suggestion phases of the sessions. Clients are NOT CATATONIC, they can speak, hear, cough, scratch and even open their eyes during a Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy session.

If you or someone you know are angry and would like to learn more anger management techniques and exercises, Sanlyn Wellness can guide you. Call or book an appointment today.

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Parts of this article are not intended to debunk Stage Hypnosis in any way as the Hypnotists that do stage work are well trained and talented. The driving point here is to differentiate that Therapeutic Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy is not for entertainment purposes and is designed for habit, behaviour and healing. What seems to get rather confusing is that the word Hypnotherapy is Greek rooted and means to “sleep”. As someone who has studied the phenomenon of techniques, inductions and suggestion analysis around Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy, it makes complete sense. However in English symantec terms to someone that is not versed in these modalities, it would perhaps seem like it is something that happens when the lights go off at night and deep sleep occurs where there is no recollection of sounds or stimulus around the person.

So what is Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy? It is a deep relaxation state of focused concentration and awareness. It allows the conscious mind to be bypassed with access to the archival library storehouse of the subconscious. The conscious mind is the everyday part of our being that sends confusing messages of judgments, critical analysis and other varying negative statements. The relaxed state shuts these thoughts down and the implemented suggestions for change that are given by a trained professional administering these techniques eliminate unwanted behaviours, habits and improve relaxation.

"They are not in a state of unconsciousness and infact they may have more awareness of the sensory input around them during the scripting and suggestion phases of the sessions. Clients are not catatonic, they can speak, hear, cough, scratch and even open their eyes during a Hypnosis or Hypnotherapy session."

It is very important to understand that this process is most effective when there is a higher degree of willingness by the person to allow it to happen. Furthermore when someone is in Therapeutic Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy THEY ARE IN CONTROL. They are not in a state of unconsciousness and infact they may have more awareness of the sensory input around them during the scripting and suggestion phases of the sessions. Clients are NOT CATATONIC, they can speak, hear, cough, scratch and even open their eyes during a Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy session.

Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy is a non invasive modality and can be used for many different areas of ones life. Stress reduction, anxiety release, habit change such as quitting smoking, weight loss, phobias, optimal sports performance, accessing ones higher self through spiritual connection and pain management are some of the more popular behaviours and habits that people seek out at the Sanlyn Wellness Centre. If you are interested in exploring a Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy program, call or email for more information and to book a session.

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However with guided counseling or healing from a well trained professional, allowing permission of oneself to accept self love is similar to the kinetic energy of the protons connecting with electrons to form atoms. The atoms give energy to life and life energy makes our aura (the vibration people feel around us) more appealing to others. Acceptance of self love allows ones aura to be light and positive. This allows people around us who feed and receive thoughts to be attracted through an unconscious patterning system that is deeply embedded in our being.

"The true beauty of love is being in love with oneself in a non-egotistical state. The act of self love is equal, the atoms are the energy of life, the life that we choose to live, the feelings of being free, the transformation of a cocoon into a multi coloured butterfly which is free to interact in ways that we all wish and imagine could be."

This invisible energy field allows for the equal balance of attraction in respect of giving and receiving to take place. Equal amounts of thoughts and feelings are essentially vital in a path of self awareness and inner healing of core self acceptance issues. The true beauty of love is being in love with oneself in a non-egotistical state. The act of self love is equal, the atoms are the energy of life, the life that we choose to live, the feelings of being free, the transformation of a cocoon into a multi coloured butterfly which is free to interact in ways that we all wish and imagine could be.

Love yourself through transformation and deep inner soul work, connect into this awareness and the self love and acceptance path is set out for you. Respect yourself as you would respect others and all the good acceptance feelings will come flowing to you in abundance. Abundance is love, it is not material, and when you love yourself the rest of the jigsaw puzzle comes together. Acceptance of self is the glue that binds life together.

Sanlyn Wellness offers Spiritual Counseling, Chakra Healing, Chakra Balancing and Hypnosis using a combination of affirmations and other healing tools to get you feeling aware of yourself in a positive way. Call or email today to book an appointment.

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Psychotherapy encompasses the concept of the onion and peeling away the layers of emotions and defenses, while Hypnotherapy uses the concept of the subconscious to change patterns of behaviour and ingrained belief systems. Chakra Balancing helps the client connect more with their energetic being and in essence their deeper feelings that are stored within their body.

"This process of integrating and creating a communication channel between the adult self (client) and the Child Within (energetic child wound) is difficult and challenging work, however the rewards of personifying and creating a voice dialogue of feelings, emotions and various thoughts is definitely worth the weight in gold."

The Onion Theory incorporates all of the above techniques. The end result is getting the client to a place where they feel confident, secure, in positive control, increased self esteem and living an authentic existence free of false selves that were created to protect the child from hurtful wounds.

Childhood traumas and other painful events of development are some areas that Sanlyn focuses on when dealing with the Child Within. Stored somewhere in the physical body, there is an energy that has gone into hiding in order to feel safe from harm, this is the Child Within who may be scared, upset, bratty or abandoned etc…

Trust building is massive between the adult client and Lynton in order to allow this child-like energy to come out and let the adult part of them know why they are hurting so badly. The first part of finding the Child Within is to isolate through feelings where in their body this energy is stored and then define what that energy feels and looks like to them. The next step is getting the child to verbalize how they are feeling to their adult self. This process of integrating and creating a communication channel between the adult self (client) and the Child Within (energetic child wound) is difficult and challenging work, however the rewards of personifying and creating a voice dialogue of feelings, emotions and various thoughts is definitely worth the weight in gold.

This article is a short synopsis of the process and the therapeutic process in the centre is more focused and structured to each individual person that comes in for sessions. If you are wondering how come you are blocked, angry, afraid, shy, out of touch with your feelings etc, then Sanlyn Wellness and Lynton Friedman can help you discover that playful, magical, intuitive and creative child that is you and your authentic core. Call today to inquire or book an appointment.

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 Many people think that…

1. Therapy is for people who are suffering from a mental illness, are strange or going crazy.

This is the furthest from the truth. Therapy is a process whereby you engage with a non-bias counselor who is not part of your daily life, who guides you to see that your situations are not as dire as you once thought. The therapist uses compassion, empathy and thus allows you to realize that you are not alone, crazy or weird. Most people who seek out counseling at Sanlyn Wellness are not weak and work hard to get results of increased self growth, improved coping mechanisms and most importantly clarification of situations as though it is being looked at through a clear glass window.

2. Therapy is too expensive and money could be used elsewhere.

Sanlyn Wellness realizes that out of pocket therapy can become expensive over an extended period. The goal of counseling at the Centre is not to make clients dependent on therapy sessions, however teach coping techniques and thus be able to effectively use them once you are feeling empowered and back in control.

When making a decision to seek a therapeutic relationship, factor in the R.O.I. (rate of return on your investment). For example if you do 16 sessions over a 4 month period, your investment is around $1750.00. This can turn out to be alot cheaper than losing your job because of a debilitating emotional paralysis or an expensive divorce because your partner is about to walk out on you due to communication shutdown. Some extended health plans also cover some services at Sanlyn as an adjunct to your investment.

3. Therapy is going to get me dependent on medications.

Sanlyn Wellness does not work with medications, however we have a responsibility to suggest or refer other medical practitioners if the scope is beyond our expertise. Years of counseling experience has shown that talk therapy is an effective mode of allowing clients to feel balance, growth and advancement. Sometimes the best medicine is laughter.

4. Therapy has not worked in the past.

The best way to describe looking for a good therapeutic counselor is to correlate the process to buying a new car. You are not going to buy a car from the dealership without testing it to see that it is comfortable for you. If therapy has not worked for you in the past, either you were not ready for it or the fit and therapeutic style was wrong for you. Sanlyn Wellness has a compassionate approach to make clients feel safe, non judged and secure. We believe that the investment of 1 session is all that it takes to see if our counseling is for you.

Call or email today to book an appointment. Our experience will guide you to a happier and more fulfilled you.

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